Dating Tips

Tips For Single Men

Do you spend 2\14 alone? Don't worry 60% of all single people do. For you single men, having a hard time getting a date. Here's five basic tips that can help you step your game up.

1: Don't try to hard, and present yourself correctly.

One of the major problems with men, is we are naturally immature. We don't compliment single women correctly, we chase them to loudly, and we don't connect with them. What do women like to do the most? They love to shop, and believe it or not; most women shop for their men. Literally speaking, they shop you, not for you. So since they're shopping on what man they want. Be yourself and stand there in front of the lady you want.

Make eye contact, send flirting signals, do things that will get her attention, but not put her on blast for the whole world to see. Make her smile, if she smiles; you're now in her memory and she is now going to shop. So while she is now shopping; make sure your gear or what you're wearing is in Season. And I mean shopping season for women, not weather seasons. If its spring time wearing light clothing, and showing some manly chest helps. Most women don't want baggy jeans or sports wear in the spring. If its winter, make sure you have your Barack Obama Coat on, and present yourself.

2: Just Stand there and let her come after you.

Right from the start in the first ten minutes of a female meeting you, she will know immediately if your in her shopping zone. If you're not in her shopping zone, don't worry you'll get there, some females want to see everything before they pick up and try something on the rack. So keep working on tip number 1 if you're not in her shopping zone--but be careful you don't want to stalk her.

And avoid staring at the chest, look anywhere but there. Women wear things because they want men to notice something. Like if her hair was done, or her nails and toes--better yet if she lost some pounds. You have to notice the new, even if you never seen the chick before. And if you're to busy staring at her chest, you will never notice the new, and you will be out of her shopping zone. It doesn't matter how good you look when you're out of the females' shopping zone, they'll just think you're a pig. So stay in the shopping; will increase your chances for a date.

3: Compliment Her

Most women want to be complimented on how their looking. So giving the right compliment, will score you points. Example, If she's wearing Skinny Jeans, and she has a noticeable backside: Never say outloud that she has a nice back side. There are ways to compliment her without insulting her. Start a conversation with her, talk about what's in season--even if you don't know. Then work you're way into saying: "Those Jeans fit you well." She will say thank you, and use you as a mirror. Easiest way to check the girl out without staring, and insulting her, and 9 out of 10 times, she will chase after you.

Why, you checked her out without insulting her, Now she's checking you out. Once she starts checking you out, go right back to tip one -- then two and three.  Most women are smart, and will say; "Are you trying to check me out?" Don't lie, tell her the truth; but immediately compliment something else, like her shoes, or feet. And if that don't work; go up the chain and compliment everything. Why, she is giving you full permission to undress her with your eyes. Even though you lost, you won because you got what you wanted, and she got what she wanted. Now would be the time to slip in a date request.

4: Make Date Request about You.

Men fail on how they make date request because we think we're God's gift to women. Yet, we're not. So once you have her full attention, and you've checked her out, without insulting her -- you're one step away from a date. Never ask to bring her to a public place, when you met her in a public place; stay away from Star Bucks and other coffee shops, once you made that connection. Instead invite her to a pool hall, a walk on a water front, or ice cream somewhere.

Believe it or not, most girls like it when a man makes them feel like a young girl going on her first date ever. So you got to make her imagine her first date. And while you're asking her for a date, and she happens to say why: you should always reference the date to you. "I don't know I just need a date, and I just want to feed you." Or I just like casual dating to take my mind off the world, and I can use your companionship and advice. If she says yes: you've got a date, and you will owe TheFanNJ $100 for that advice. If she says no, start your process right back at one.  But remember to pay TheFanNJ.

5: Starting the process over, even when its over.

You may think the process is over but its not. Women don't think like men, they say no out of impulse. They wanted to say yes, but don't want to come off as to easy. You have to make them feel special about dating you. So, when she says no-- you say "Thanks all I can do is try." Women like that when you're open to how you feel about them, so by saying thank you, after a rejection tells the female you like them. And once you've been rejected continue back to tip number one. Why, you're still in her shopping zone. A rejection isn't the end, its a change in season; women like to shop, so let the girl you want: Shop You.

P.S.

Now that I've exposed my secret -- many of the females I know will change their ways on me. If there are less single women, then there are less single women for me to date.

PSS

If you go out on that date try not to sleep with her. Let her try and sleep with you, never make her feel like she is being chased, rather than showing her how to chase You. These tips work, since I'm not only the author -- I'm also a client.

TheFanNJ has a PHD in Education, he has spent 15 years studying American Dating habbits, and he's only 33 at the end of 2012. These tips may and may not work, but if it has been working for 15 years for TheFanNJ -- then you need to keep practicing. 

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The Black Knight: St. Valentine's Day

The Black Knight

On St. Valentine's Day

Quickly ranting in a silent swirling pitch black 4 by 12 covenant. Then a swirling shadow emerged to the right of my left shoulder. Coming closer, spin radically --whistling made their appearance to enchanting on baring. The bright, but gleaming glare stretch as far as the eyes can behold. Scarcely blowing back horse whips, or chariots of horses plowing through the heated sand in the mist of a midnight glare. A streamline of dust clouds mounted the dark skies, covering the moonlight from far above, which abandon the warning signs of mischief that questions starts above.

While feeling the cool mist, and freezing rain drops from steam streaming out of nowhere. Questions of reality strikes the teary mind of a few, as the herds settle, the dust meddles, and the stars return. You can now here chatter, music -- and the sounds of adultery and mischief among the mysterious noise. As the darkness now has light from a camp fire, and men baring nude with women of children. And the sounds of whip against flesh heard nearby, with the smell of blood from their broken bodies.

The crew and their carriers, spoke:

"Sir, what horrible covenant must this be, where men bed children women, and enslave children men."

Finally after years of silence the leader of this rebellion finally speaks, on this mounting day; after witnessing this horrible feat.

"Those aren't men, their thieves and for far to long we've heard stories about pilgrims, stealing children, creating a  Monterey, while sending the pregnant; child baring youth back to their villages."

The leader of this army spoke louder.

"Men, this is the fight, you have been preparing for-- this is Sir Lancelot."

Noises of men screaming and chanting with a thunderous roar. As the captain spoke once more.

"Remember this day, fight with passion, since this will be the end of our children's carnage. Kill only men of adult age, spear women, and free our people from bondage. March on victory is ours, forward."

As the army march forward, the men took arms, and vowed to protect their covenant. A man, struck a solider, as war begun, children women ran for safety -- while enslaved youth broke chains freeing them from bondage. Where they scattered next to the women, watching soldiers kill men, who were thieves. When the fighting was over one child spoke to the leader of this army?

"We have been here since 8 dawns, and 7 falls of the sun, or sisters have been raped, as we mind the fields. Who are you?"

The leader of this army spoke once more.

"I'm the legend that kings fear, the freedom men tear for, and a knight that can't be beat. My return will mount your defeat since I'm the Black Knight."

More on this story latter to come.....

Author's note:

When Omar Dyer created the pen-name TheFanNJ, what made TheFanNJ famous was his short stories about The Black Knight. The Black Knight is a morh, who was born from a princess of one kingdom and a First Knight turn slave of another kingdom. He grew up in Bondage, and stroke his revenge on his grand fathers -- since he wasn't the same as them, his pigment was different.  Omar Dyer vowed to tell his creation of The Black Knight, and maybe in generations next, you'll know about one kings' Black First Knight. 

iTunes Poll

We are bring back the iTunes blog, and soap gossip around in the celebrity world. First we will start things off with SoadHead's Ladies' Man poll. Normally this is a six pack of abs fight with high profile celebs and low profile celeb wanabes.

At the top of the SoadHead Six Pack chart you have:

1: TheFanNJ -- he's been the go-to guy after beating LL Cool J in 2007. He's 6'1 210 pounds of athletic balanced muscles. He has the conventional six pack, and from what we here--a true ladies man. Some women call him "Mr. Right." Google TheFanNJ if you don't know. There's something that the ladies like about TheFanNJ because he continues to gain 600 votes in the SodaHead Poll. Maybe it's rigged! (Celebrity wannabe)

2: David Otunga -- the healthy eating WWE star displayed an Iron man type of body in Feb. 17th's Friday Night Smackdown. David is new to the Sodahead poll getting 320 votes. (Celeb)

3: LL Cool J: Ladies Love Cool James, has been the creator of this poll, and has a total of 6 million votes since the poll began. But has been in a battle to reclaim his title. This week, LL Cool J has 240 votes. (Celeb)

4: The Situation: Michael Sorrentino -- since this is about hot abs, we are forced to put Michael on the list, and say -- maybe being a part of Jersey Shore does have benefits. The Situation is new to the poll with 200, and we rank him as a celebrity wannabe.

5: Finnally: Taylor Lautner -- The star of Twilight is the hottest thing on the market, but his abs are not up to par with The Situation, LL Cool J or David Otunga. He gets on this poll based on looks with 150 votes; and he's a mega celeb.

We on this blog thinks this poll is rigged but there's one important thing: TheFanNJ does have some hot abs, and he's not shy to say that he spends 5 hours everyday on his abs -- his may not be bigger than the bigger stars, but his abs are greekish.

Rumorville:

This blog talks about the rumors in the world of celebrity vision. The chatter out there is Rihanna is looking to do a collaboration with Chris Brown, or the other way around, as Chris Brown wished the young star a Happy Birthday in Feb. of 2012. This was being reported by Fox Celebrity Buzz. We think they should get back together, work out their differences, because it's very clear and true--those two are love-birds going through the motions with someone else.

Now for the iTunes Blog top Ten:

1: Part of Me by Katy Perry

2: Set Fire to the Rain by ADELE (Grammy Award winner)

3: I Will Always Love You by Whitney Houston

4: We Are Young (feat. Janelle Monáe) Fun.

5: Stronger (What Doesn't Kill You) by Kelly Clarkson

6: Rolling in the Deep by ADELE

7: Someone Like You by ADELE

8: Turn Up the Music by Chris Brown

9: Sexy and I Know It by LMFAO

10:Somebody That I Used to Know (feat. Kimbra) Gotye

We pay our respects to the late Whitney Houston, and revive this blog in her honor.

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State of the Union – Where America will Go?

This speech is part of the collection and book called: "Wall Street Occupied" written by TheFanNJ: Omar Dyer. Wall Street Occupied's copyrights belong to Coaches! 101 under ISBN: 1468021443, and LCCC # 2011962093. This blog is a partner of Coaches! 101 and any content on this blog is for viewing only.


State of the Union – Where America will Go?


It was over 200 years when one of our leaders, as the president – made a statement. Four Scores and seven years ago; we the people are the victors of this country. A country that had half-free, and half-slave; plus a country where women, where the property of their men! We have come so far in our fight for justice and history, to allow the mongering of fear, and economic collapse – to send our country back into the years beyond the Four Scores’ speech. Our union has never been stronger—the economic divide although has a bleak sign in the recovery—has been a bright spot for our union. This Union, which is a free democratic society and have civil liberties that we so desperately take advantage of—are strong. A strong country has leaders who believe in their current leader. A strong union is a republic that respect the office of the president.

I’m a leader – you’re a leader: let’s lead to inspire and unite

I implore you to fight for these civilian rights—rights that we have worked so hard to achieve. Before the speech “Four Scores,” came about women couldn’t vote—had no personal rights to their health, had to be submissive to their men. Before the speech: “Four Scores,” came about – little children were allowed to work in mines. And the wages of our indentured servants, where a few cents on the dollar—while the tariffs where more expensive than its today! And half of the country was free, while the other half was slave. And majority of the population in these half free—half slave states, where inter-racial. And their rights were violated because of these notions that brought them to the middle.


I’m a leader -- you’re a leader, let’s inspire and unite

Campaigns for leadership roles are about leaders uniting the electric—to believe and hope that we the people of this free union; can come together. Come together and move this country forward; in a way were the people are respected for the contributions that are put into this country. And come together, on making sure that our fruits and labors benefit the lives of the poor, economical disadvantage—prosperous individuals, plus super rich – on reaping the benefits of what this country has harvested and Sheppard. We need our growth on democracy to continue its growth, and be the model symbol—for other countries to invest interest on. People won’t invest in America or Americans from another country—if our leaders are disrespecting the office of the President. Women’s health and rights wouldn’t have the pride that other females in other nations so desperately seek—if our leaders, weren’t respecting their mothers, and daughters. We live in a free democratic country that we the people have fought hard to achieve.

I’m a leader – you’re a leader; let’s inspire and unite

I want to unite you the people, those who are republican, with those that are democrats—on coming together with those that are independent, in order to represent our democratic state. A state where we have so many free rights and freedoms, that we as the people in the public take advantage of without notice. Since together, the people united will never be defeated, and one unified country, with the public and the people that respect our president in: President Barack Obama, just imagine what obstacles we can overcome together. One Nation, were the people can believe in the fight, the vibe or the rights to dream big, and work hard—to sheapard a product, where it will bring prosperity to all.

We don’t need to go back to the days, where our women hung out in closets – to take the life out of their bodies, because they were afraid of religious persecution.

We don’t need to go back to the days, where labor was free for half of the population, and less than a few cents for those who migrated to this country.

We don’t need to back to the times – where our leaders where disrespecting our president.

We don’t need to divide the country in order to win an election.

We don’t need a solution where we have three separate states of the union – haves and have knots, entitled and title less to elected and non elected.

We don’t need to fall into a state, where corruption—placed with bad leaderships, becomes the doorways and gates to a poverish state.

We don’t need to see a principal statement as: “We are broke,” in order to invest in the same securities that made this the most prosperous nation in the world.

No! We want our people to unite, respect, believe and achieve.

Believe in the notion that an education, hard work and organization, can create a narrative of a story, where a poor man in the delta, can travel to New York City—while getting the same rights as everyone else. Rights that leads to economic prosperity and social security on individual affairs.

Respect the will of the people, and the offices of our leaders! Respect the voices that go unheard, and allowing those who have on having a chance at the American Dream. And most importantly, respect our President of the United States. He’s earned that much!

Achieve, in order for our country to achieve those same goals written in our constitution—we must achieve peace. We need to be at peace with thy neighbor, and be at peace with thy race, sex and creed. When the people are united—we can never be defeated, and that’s what we must achieve.

Unite, now is the time more than ever to unite for one cause: Our Leaderships’ respect, and the people living in this country.

I’m a leader – you’re a leader; let’s inspire to unite.


Wall Street Occupied will be available online only at Amazon.com in March -- the documentary will be in selected places come August of 2012.

ATTN Hackers!

If you think you're the best Hacker in the world, here's a challenge. TheFanNJ has been stalked, and would like the world of the world-wide-web, to hack the stalker.

(IP: 76.116.107.249 , c-76-116-107-249.hsd1.nj.comcast.net)

People that stalked don't like to be stalked, so for cool cyber fun, it's time to hack the stalker. If you think you got hacking skills, hack the stalker.

TheFanNJ on African American men

Historical Black Colleges and Universities have been trademarked to bring in the best and the brightest African American students. And they shoot down any notion that spills out as African Americans are not progressing, instead of digressing under the current times. And this is because of the notion – 22 states have colleges that are; Historical Black Colleges and Universities, and in those states there’re 4 universities or colleges in each state. Which leads a total of 55 colleges and universities that are considered or are apart of the HBCU Foundation, plus tradition? With an average of 20,000 students for each school – and by doing the average math; 1,100,000 students in a 4 year average gain a degree from the HBCU foundation’s traditional program. And many of them do get credited jobs either within the school system they have left—or in the programs and companies that donate to HBCU foundation. Yet, there are many problems and solutions of success but what about the rest – since nearly less than 1% of the 23% of the African American population attend colleges and universities listed as HBCU. And less than that are African American men, while 14% of the population is in prison—where real numbers lead to 4 million. Then there’s the factor of the men that are unemployed and under employed – where it leads to 18% of the total population. This leads to a range of about 12 million men that have African American heritage are wavering in poverty.

They are not getting respected for their non-traditional roles of gaining an education, such as a trade school. They are not considered highly educated even though they progressed in the educational system. And it has been well noted that many of the large corporations that pay decent salaries are not hiring African American men. And is using the loophole with the minority clause to hire Asian men, and Southern Hemisphere workers—while the lower tier companies are chasing after non-registered residents! Leaving those that who didn’t go to a HBCU left to compete for work with those that have those titles! And I am ecstatic about this because every time you place numbers out there that shows, African American men are being left behind—those in the system rant and range on other sources, as if 1.1 million students every 4 to 5 years can state we as a nation is progressing. Where the population that comes from HBCUs have a percentage of 65% being female – while doing the math less than 200,000 men graduate from a Historical Black College and University? That’s nearly not enough to make Warren Buffet any more excited about hiring African American men.

Yet, what strikes my eyes about these colleges and universities that come from the HBCU Foundation – which host the United Negro College Fund is 17 states are from the south – while the biggest states in America; California, New York, New Jersey, and Massachusetts don’t have ONE college or University in the HBCU Foundation. Colleges like Medgar Evers, and other black colleges that are from New York are not in the HBCU Foundation. And that school brings out some of the best and brightest – and even in New Jersey (St. Elizabeth College) a nursing school for African American women – (all girls school) isn’t and won’t be considered for the HBCU title. That leaves more and more African American students – educated on par with the students from the HBCU foundation out of the mix and morally attacked.

And I am being biased because of the numbers and facts – plus on the notion that I never attended a HBCU foundational school—never qualified for a United Negro College Fund, and racking up over $180,000 in student loans – while working hard for 12 years to gain my Doctor of Philosophy (DPhil) from a university that isn’t considered to be in the HBCU category—even though more than 40% of the school has African Americans. And I say, HBCU needs to add more schools onto their list; have New Jersey, New York and California in that mix—expand their pool and then maybe the employment rates will drop – and maybe African American men will get respected more and not less.

Omar Dyer
Masters in Legal Studies
B.A. in Technical Communication
A.A. in Child Studies
A.A. in Children's Literature

Cost of an Education

Story of TheFanNJ: Omar Dyer

In ten years spending time in a setting built to advance yourself, place an achievement standards plus status on your resume. While working hard in an effortless environment--plus providing a symbol of the oppressed, where it leads to trickery. I have excluded my thoughts to include a rounded theory -- a college education is a money making business. And the level of competition is ranged on not the factual knowledge gained by the vision on how prestige the university you have risen from. But by how creditable of the training institution your degrees were signed by.

During my ride in longevity has seen me in educational rifts or drifts on what was accumulated in cost over time. I spent one year at the University of Oregon and accumulated $13,900 in student loans. While transferring to the Institution of Children’s Literature—which is an online home training school for teenage drama and movie making. That cost me $1,500 for a degree. The Course was a two year course, or 10 weeks at your pace.

Once I realized that the talents provided by the literary skills – plus my dented mind rolled and maintained vigorously to achieve; forced me to move up the latter of chain, and entering the University of Kaplan.

Studying at the University of Kaplan has been an uplifting experience. And making the rounds on the accumulation of debt has bound and bordered me to understand the theory of—what it means to truly educate your mind. And no matter what the rivals of alternative education can place on the burdens of those who achieve; as in tune to what the manor on education—in which it can be perceived, can actually state as a real educational experience.

Your educational experience is naturally based on you and how you view the levels of input, data and information that you would need to suck out of your professors. That deal is done on the amount of time and knowledge or interpretation you as a student place into the ventures, you are or would be willing to train your frontal lobe; which holds intellectual information. Therefore in theory, you are educating yourself; no matter what valued—prestige University or higher levels of education such a person as entered into a contractual agreement with the university. In my valid and dense opinion on the nature in which involve; what or whom has drifted into a world of challenging the frontal lobe – whether that challenge came in the traditional method or setting; it is within my best intellectual interest on stating – we as a society should and would need to respect the roles, trails and errors of students that train their thought process. And gain an education, which accumulated a service of debt. I mean I am now in the bounty of $180,000 in loans that gave me an accumulation of a Doctor in Philosophy. And I am not mad at the universities that I been in contractual agreements with – I am more disheartened and saddened by the roles of society; in which they are not respecting the values we in still in our children as they are young. If you have a degree from anywhere on earth, be proud – hold that degree in the air, and say: I have a brain.